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The Cry it out method-Does it work?

February 2, 2021

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Cry it Out Method

There are some things I’ll never take for granted in life: sunny blue skies, being able to eat sushi, and oh yeah, being able to watch tv before bed and having my room to myself. For all the new moms out there, I know you’ll feel me on this. Maybe you’re at the point where you’re so tired from waking up every 2-3 hours at night feeding your baby, changing diapers, soothing her to sleep, and you’re left wondering to yourself, when will she sleep through the night? Well, congratulations! You’re almost there! Whenever you feel ready to move your little one to the next room whether it’s at 4 months or 8 months, you will inevitably get those cries of protest when you begin sleep training them. The piercing, loud, tug-at-your-heartstrings kind of cries will leave you wondering if you should go back into soothing your baby to sleep. Well, I’m telling you now, don’t! In this post, I’m going to talk about my experience with the Ferber method otherwise known as the cry it out method. Let’s dive on in!

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The cry it out method, in my opinion, is the most effective way to sleep-train my babies. While this method isn’t for everyone, I can tell you that it works and it’s worth it. Some common misconceptions that people often think are, it is so heartless to let your baby cry and cry like that. Or too much crying will damage your baby’s brain! I’ll tell you right now, all of my kids were ferberized and they’re happy, smart, bright, and well-adjusted. They’re monsters that tear my house apart and are hungry every hour but well adjusted nonetheless. If you feel like the cry it out method is not right for you, then feel free to try other methods! But if you’re curious and want to learn more, then keep on reading!

How we did it

First, let’s go back to my first kid: Sadie. When Sadie was about 4 months old, we decided to start sleep training. We were first-time parents at the time and had no idea what we were doing. Sadie probably cried the most out of all 3 kids. Remember the earlier you start, the better and easier. First, we put her in her crib and she cried for about 5 mins. The first 5 minutes were the hardest. And then she cried and cried and she cried. When she cried for 20 mins we walked in and let her know we’re here and that she’s ok. After another 10mins of crying, she fell asleep. She woke up in the middle of the night, and we let her cry for about 5 mins and she soothed herself back to sleep. On the second night, she only cried 10 mins on the second night, and then she was able to soothe herself to sleep. On the third night, she didn’t even cry at all, we put her in her crib and she eventually fell asleep on her own. 

After that, she occasionally woke up in the middle of the night, but she was still able to go to bed without much assistance. With that knowledge in mind, it was so much easier to let our 2 other boys cry it out when they were babies because we knew what to expect. Each kid started to sleep through the night at different months, but we always kept the same routine of letting them cry it out so that they could learn to self-soothe. 

Now, let me also remind you that our family lives in the bay area. So as much as we’d love it, we don’t have the luxury to have a bedroom for each kid, which is why our 3 kids are currently sharing the same room. When I tell people that my kids share the same around, most would assume that it’d be tough to ferberize a baby with 2 other kids sleeping in the room. The truth is, it wasn’t! I don’t know if my kids are just good sleepers, but even when one of them wakes up screaming bloody murder, the other two are still sleeping like a rock! They adapt and they get used to it. 

So to conclude, the only thing to fear is fear itself. We always fear the anticipation of trying something new. But just experiment and give it a try! Stay firm for 1-2 days and do your best not to give in. And track the time from when they start crying until the end. You are not a bad parent. You are not heartless. It’s a legitimate method that works! Sleep training is doubly important for your baby’s development as well as your own mental health. When you regain your personal space, you’re able to compartmentalize your life, and are able to fully focus on yourself again. Remember, self-care isn’t selfish! Just trust that your baby will be okay and trust the process. Just know, I’m always here for support! If you want to learn more about how to sleep-train your kid, read on for some tips!

Develop a consistent routine

  • Developing a routine with your baby is so important. Babies and kids love routine and so do adults. When you develop a consistent routine it helps the baby to know what to expect. Although our kids are older now, we still have the same routine since their birth.

Make sure your baby is full and has a clean diaper 

  • This part is important because if your baby is hungry, he/she won’t be happy and will not cooperate in your training.

Lean on your partner for support.

  • I know sleep training is tough especially when your baby is crying and screaming bloody murder. Make sure you and your husband are there to support each other. 

Don’t start sleep training if your baby is going through other leaps such as sick, growth spurt, and teething, etc.

  • When babies are going through these stages, their sleep will likely be irregular, so it won’t be a good time to try sleep-training. 

Don’t give up! 

  • Nobody likes listening to their baby cry but don’t give up! It’s tough in the beginning but it’ll get better. Babies are super smart. Once they learn to self-soothe they’ll learn to go back to sleep on their own. 

Stay consistent. 

  • It is so important to stay consistent and not go back and forth because then you’ll send them mixed messages and they won’t learn on their own. If you keep picking them up and soothing her back to sleep then they’ll never learn. 

And that’s all there is to it! Yay! You get your room back and your 8 hrs of sleep again! 

Love, 

Tiffany

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